PerceptionTo see or not to see.
There are a number of reasons why details may be overlooked, disregarded, or dismissed. Remember for instance how I feel influences what has my attention, and what has my attention influences how I feel.
Valuing.Just how important is it?
I see it but just how important is it, how much attention does it need and how urgent. What will happen if I don't take action.
Owning.Who is responsible?
This is key to concepts of control, frustration, anxiety and guilt, and whilst taking responsibility is valuable, distortions of responsibility are not.
PatternsYour mind has to choose from a range of Options.
Identify the pattern.
The rules you tend to apply.
Consider the reason.
The beliefs which govern that pattern, that underly the rules.
Recognise the outcome.
Understanding how this pattern impacts you and others.
You will discover rules that feed anxiety and breed self doubt.
Patterns of thinking that are intended to keep you safe and help you navigate perceptual choices smoothly and efficiently, but instead limit your choices and keep you stuck.Learn more →
So what are these distortions!
Cognitive behavioural therapy has identified some of these distortions, and you may even be familiar with some of the terms like personalising, or magnification, catastrophising and magical thinking. Try dismissing the positives or All or nothing thinking. These are just some distortions that we examine both as CBT contructs and as everyday events like how perceptual differences are part of interpersonal differences and contribute to everything from the formation of friendships to marital conflict.Learn more →