Which ever way you look at it hopefully you will get a feel for the importance of emotions. You will see just how relevant feelings are and how they are part of the ignition switch that gets you moving (or the breaks that keep you stuck).



We begin with the 6 feelings identified by science as being the basic building blocks of all emotion, Happy, Sad, Angry, Scared, Surprised and Disgusted.


But why these feelings? The answer is that these basic emotions are not only the building blocks of all other feelings, but also reveal the essence of  how feelings (and their expression) are part of our ability to react and adapt to our world.


You will literally SEE this as we look at The Face of Feelings and Feeling Moved.  (The passwords for some pages form part of the EQ Coach App, which expands on these  ideas with video's, theory,  exercises and quizzes designed to bring these to life and help you to develop the skills

Take a look

We begin our exploration of feelings with a very tangible part of emotion, with facial expressions.


But we encourage you to not only read the facts, but also to mimic the expressions (Make the face) and experience how your eyes, eyebrows, mouth, nose and facial muscles move. As you exaggerate each of these 'looks' you will experience how it feels to feel happy, sad, angry, scared, disgusted and surprised. You will recognize the sensations and become aware of just how others see and experience you.

Expressing the feeling


Over and above developing body language skills, this is a great way of revealing, and 'feeling' the function or purpose behind these things we call emotions.


This is because the expression of feelings contain very real clues as to the purpose of the feeling itself.




They are our judgment of what trumps everything else and what can be ignored, the determination of the action we must take and the ignition switch that moves us to act.


So when we take a look at the face of feelings we can see this reflected, with eyes being the easiest of these to 'see.'




Great because that means I have your attention!


Simply put we can 'see' our senses taking in information, or focusing on the source of the feeling and the easiest of these senses to observe are our eyes. Just take a look.

Eyes on the target

"Compellingly you to STOP AND LOOK" Surprise is a temporary feeling that only lasts until you have had the opportunity to assess the situation.


Frozen in time, the face reflects the nature of surprise. Take a close look, and you will see the wide open stare that is a central part of  the face of surprise!


But what does that reflect and what about the eyes and other emotions

Un/common Knowledge


Baby Smiles

A baby's reflex smile will disappear by time she's 2 months old, and her first real one will make an appearance somewhere between one and a half to 3 months (or 6 and 12 weeks) of life.

Un/common Cultural Expression

Apologize with a smile is a relatively common expression in Japan. (Akihiro Tanaka Assistant Professor, Waseda University Institute for Advanced Study)

The Startled Moro Reflex

The Moro reflex is often called a startle reflex because it usually occurs when a baby is startled by a loud sound or movement or feels that he or she is falling.  It involves three distinct components: spreading out the arms (abduction) unspreading the arms (adduction) crying (usually).

What is your natural resting face?


Naturally angry-looking people are rated less trustworthy, while the happy-looking people are given the benefit of the doubt (Christopher Olivola, Researcher at Carnegie Mellon University)

Gender Differences

Woman are better at picking up on emotions than men, In particular Women are particularly good when it comes to distinguishing between fear and disgust

Infant Reflex Smile

A reflex action or survival instinct similar to other newborn reflexes like rooting and sucking, the babies first smilse are not responsive. These first reflex smiles are innate and are believed to make newborns more appealing to keep them safer.