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ABOUT SELF- MASTERY

 

 

This is what we do here, where we encourage you to BUILD THE PICTURE,  to flesh out your PERSONAL opening statement,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Being intentional means choosing how to be and act in the moment. But to do this means understanding the long term objective or intention.

 

Think about it as a legal case where the OPENING and CLOSING arguments of council act as reference points, guidelines for the rest of the case.

 

Our goals, beliefs and values are our reference points, and acting intentionally means 'consciously choosing these, defining our Opening and closing arguments so that this can guide our case..

 

We cannot tell you what that intent should be, because that will differ from person to person, but we can guide you in terms of how to go about this.

WHAT IS MY CASE?

When defending someone at trial the objective is to get the best possible result for that person. Beginning with the end legal council works back, building a picture for the jury (or judge) that will support that OUTCOME.

 

So the initial step is understanding what the best result is, setting your goals, establishing your intent.  Your values will inform this, and so will your character description.

 

The opening statement is where legal council start telling this story, building the picture for the Jury. Can you see what his goals are and the elements of his argument?

DESCRIBE YOUR CHARACTER

Would the person you are describing be capable of achieving the OUTCOME you want? Listen to how you talk to and about yourself, to your opening statement about yourself.

 

Take a look a the video and see how legal council describes his client and the defendant. Can you see how one sided? Now go back to Distortion Defense and your own Thought Journal and reflect on your self-talk, and ask yourself  "Which side are you on?"

BASED ON THE FACTS

Consider the evidence carefully, gathering details from all sources so that you can make a decision as to what outcome are possible, but also by reflecting on your values and beliefs  so that these goals are meaningful to you.

 

If you look back at Perception and Distortion Defense, you will realise that you may not see all there is to see, and it is useful for you to expand your view, by asking others for input, and learning to look at things differently.

 

The video clip below - Defense opening in a criminal case  illustrates this well and highlights the need to challenge the prosecution.

CHALLENGE THE PROSECUTION

Why it doesn't prove anything!   We do not want you to ignore 'evidence' of things you cannot do, things you have done wrong  or are not good at. Ignoring it would be like going to trial unprepared for what the opposing side's is going to present.

 

But this does not mean ACCEPTING their case and 'giving up.  You owe it to yourself to consider the prosecutions case with a healthy dose of skepticism (even if you are acting as the prosecution).

  • There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed."

 

— Ray Goforth

REFLECT

The very first  part of choosing, is a choice of whose side you are on, and if you are constantly putting yourself down or criticizing yourself, you are on the wrong side.

 

 

Choose yourself

 

How intention dictates choice : understanding the end game.

PRACTICALLY

Lets look a some practical examples and specific considerations

TEST RUN

Imagine you are on the opposing side in the two cases presented above and see if you can develop your own opening statement. Challenge your friends to do the same and see what arguments you come up with.

 

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UNIQUELY YOU

Now start with your own opening statement, keeping in mind what the lecturer says in the video "Closing is a product of trial".

 

So what do you want to be able to say in the end, keeping in mind

1. What is possible (What principals play a role)

2. What are the facts

3. What is the prosecution likely to argue (what are the negatives)

YOUR LENS

Try to adopt the role of an investigator, gathering all the facts.

1. Record them

2. Follow leads, to see where they take you

3. Interview others (ask for their input) and

4. Where appropriate consult experts.

RECORD THE UNDERLYING VALUES

Name them, and write them down. In this way when you state your case, and imagine your closing argument, you can see if they support the intended values.

 

You will also see where certain values conflict with each other or with actions taken.

 

CLOSING IS A REFLECTION OF TRIAL

Remember that we all need to put what has happened in perspective, and that how we approach this is based on our HOW WE SEE OUR ROLE.

 

All to often we see our role at protector, guide, or teacher and our role then becomes to self-correct, or PROSECUTE. As DEFENSE our role is quite different, it is to see what is possible in spite of the case the prosecution puts forward.

WHEN FEAR DRIVES

FEAR Compels us to act,  and is a necessary driver when faced with dangers, whether physical or emotional. but the goal is to escape the danger or stop the threat. The biggest challenge though is the destination or outcome is not consciously chosen. Instead we look at what we don't want, what we are looking to avoid.

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