The goal ultimately would be to recognize and acknowledge the other. But before going there we encourage you to listen and ask to know. To know who the other is.
Consider yourself a detective. In fact the first exercise is to find a public space, make yourself comfortable and observe. Look at couple sitting together and see if you can 'read' the feelings between them and the nature of their relationship.
See if you can profile the person, and tell a story about who and what they are.
The benefits of being mindful of other may surprise you, because not only does it improve interpersonal communication, enhance relationships, improve leadership and team performance, it also helps manage your emotions and self esteem.
So get out of your head and into the moment!
Your task ... to become an expert observer of other! To refocus outside of yourself and ask, based on the evidence : Who are they? How do they feel? What do they need/want? and Why would they be inspired?
One great way to be more mindful of others is to listen well, and not with the intention of simply responding. When in conversation, look into the other person's eyes, orient your body to face them rather than at an angle, and don't cross your arms.
This will give the impression of genuine interest! Even better yet assume an attitude of curiosity and the interest will be genuine.
Curiosity ...is the desire to know more, (a state of active interest or genuinely wanting to know more about something) It creates an openness to unfamiliar experiences,
When we are curious, we see things differently; we use our powers of observation more fully. We sense what is happening in the present moment, taking note of what is, regardless of what it looked like before or what we might have expected it to be.
We are also willing to ask questions.... because we do not feel we should know the answer.
Acknowledging another ...one of the most under utilized interpersonal tools. So all to often because we see the action (or ourselves) as insignificant) we don't acknowledge.
Just take a look - Shaking someones hand in greeting, saying hello, thanking someone for holding the lift door, or meeting a deadline ... There are a thousand ways to acknowledge another, and a thousand things to acknowledge them for. Take a look at EQ Coaching :Topic 3 to explore how you can use it to build rapport and more.
The next time you converse with someone, make it your goal to learn as much about that person and his or her perspectives as you can. Instead of trading information, witty remarks and reactions, give the person you are talking to space and time to really flesh out his or her ideas.
Then prompt him or her to talk more with brief follow-up questions like “And then what happened?” or “Why did you think that?” Consider every conversation an opportunity to discover something truly interesting and thought-provoking.
"It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education."
It is far easier to form and maintain satisfying, significant relationships when you demonstrate an attitude of openness and genuine interest.
Happy couples describe their partners as interested and responsive.
Anxiety, self consciousness, insecurity ... can be barriers to mindfulness and mindfulness can be a defense against anxiety, self consciousness and insecurity.
Acknowledging the other person through your enthusiasm for what they are sharing.
The attitude of play naturally builds interest and curiosity.
So try the games in the here and in the EQ Coaching app designed to encourage play and a safer space to exercise curiosity.. One of our new games is Building a Defense: Meet the other suspects, take a look at the case against your client... and see what your legal defense strategy will be!
A VIDEO PRESENTATION TO BETTER UNDERSTAND : Simon Sinek on Intensity vs Consistency